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I have been a big follower of Byron Katie ever since I discovered The Work.

This past week I absorbed her latest book, Who Would You Be Without Your Story?: Dialogues with Byron Katie.

In her latest book, a collection of fifteen dialogues from Byron Katie’s The Work are presented for readers to experience the dialogues along with the participants (as a tool to understand our own challenges).

The dialogues include titles like:

a) My Mother Wouldn’t Approve
b) The Rent Increase
c) Frank Bosses Me Around
d) Cancer Ruined My Life
e) My Sister The Prostitute
f) My Husband Shouldn’t Have Left Me
g) My Father Abused Me
h) Scared and Angry at God

Always through these dialogues, Byron Katie encourages The Work as a tool to help one understand the way the mind keeps us where we say we no longer wish to be.

The Work is a process that involves four questions and a turn around.

1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?

5. Turn the thought around

What I continue to find incredible is the simplicity with which (as I read these dialogues from someone else’s experience) I can identify with the stuck thought patterns of the participants.

It’s not that I necessarily have had the same experiences, rather that without controlling my mind, my mind can control me, with justifications and shoulds and shouldn’ts, as evidenced when I agree with the thought patterns of participants and then feel relief as Byron Katie helps them move to a new understanding.

All Byron Katie offers through The Work is the gift (4 Questions and a Turnaround) that freed her from her personal suffering.

I highly recommend this book and The Work of Byron Katie.

Blessings,

Barry

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I am so grateful for the love and support of people in my life.

With you I am a better person and I have way more fun.

Blessings,

Barry

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Recently, some people have asked me the quickest way to embody new beliefs and results in their life.

Here are some ideas I share with people when they say, “I want new effective beliefs and results.”

Once Is Never Enough

To get results, you have to make an absolute commitment to your embodying of new beliefs (make this commitment and the actions around it FUN).

I know that each and everyone of us can have the results we desire.

Less is More

Focus on Embodying a few concepts in your life at a time.

For me I have a page of affirmations that I carry with me every where.

I create a new page (about once a month) with new concepts I am going to absolutely embody (some I carry over to further empower them during the next month).

FEEL THEM

Every morning I read my affirmations and FEEL THEM.

Every moment I am challenged (and I AM Aware), I read my affirmations and FEEL THEM.

Every moment I feel great (and have spare time), I read my affirmations and FEEL THEM.

Every night before I go to bed, I read my affirmations and FEEL THEM.

The most important part is to FEEL THEM.

I have made an absolute commitment to myself to embody effective beliefs to create my results. To know those beliefs are mine I have to FEEL THEM.

Then only when a new opportunities arise and I actually use my new effective beliefs consistently, do I know that I have embodied new effective beliefs.

How important is change in your life?

If change is very important to you, believe that your Thoughts, Feelings, Words, and Actions lead to your Results, and then replace your ineffective Thoughts, Feelings, Words, and Actions with an simple and measurable method until your Results Change.

As Jerry and Esther Hicks and Abraham say, “Your life is a feeling journey. You cannot get to a good feeling place through a bad feeling journey.”

Tool Box

As you can well imagine, I now have an immense toolbox full of incredible ideas that work in my life. In most every challenging moment, I effortlessly grab the idea that helps me the most.

We each have some tools that we can do that with. We each would like to embody even more effective tools in our life consistently.

If you wish to empower any new belief (tool) in your life. Study that belief (tool) until, you become it, and your life changes without any major outer effort APPEARING to be required.

Your Outer World is a result of your Inner World.

This is not about blame, this is about responsibility.

If you don’t like the Results you are getting, what are you willing to change in order to get your Desired Results?

You Will Have New Effective Beliefs When …

When your experience changes in your life (that stay), you know you have empowered new effective beliefs.

When you experience permanent change in your life other people will come to you and ask, “How do you do it?”

You don’t have to shout from the mountain tops.

People come to you and ask, “How do you have the peace and joy and abundance you do?”

When they ask, then you share, because when they ask, they are open to hearing.

Blessings,

Barry

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During challenging times, it can be very difficult to see God in everything.

However when you look with hindsight at your largest challenges, many times they were actually G(oo)d in retrospect.

Think back to your hardest times.

Maybe you lost a job (or did not get the one you wanted).
Maybe you lost a relationship (or did not get the one you wanted).
Maybe something else happened or did not happen.

Quite often, I will bet, the things that did not go the way you wanted at the time, actually led to better people, places, things, and experiences.

Because of your job loss, you were eventually led to an even better opportunity.
Because of your relationship failure, you were eventually led to even better loving experiences.
Because of whatever that did not happen, you were led to even better happenings.

Everything Is Perfect - No Matter What Appears To Be.

Because that is true in hindsight, it is also true right now.

The absolute best thing is happening in challenging times - No Matter What Appears to Be.

So take the time to look at whatever is challenging you right now, and KNOW that it is Perfectly in your life to help you grow or move to even better experiences.

Blessings,

Barry

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Today is Valentine’s Day.

Today is the Day of Love.

Today is a day that is waiting for you to share your love with the world.

Valentine’s Day Starts with Self Love.

When your Self Love cup overflows with Love, Love pours into all of your 7 Relationship Rings.

First, share Love with yourself through your relationship with God/Life/Energy.

Second, share Love with your significant other.

Third, share Love with your children and family members.

Fourth, share Love with friends and co-workers.

Fifth, share Love with community members.

Sixth, share Love with Country members.

Seventh, share Love with world members.

For a complete overview of this journey.

For an in depth discussion of this world view click here => 7 Relationship Rings

Blessings,

Barry

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