On August 7, 2010 my friend Virginie Jean-Marie returned to Source. This past weekend, a celebration of her life was attended by many friends remembering the joy she shared in the world.

On the day I was told of Virginie’s passing, I sat down and wrote a letter to remember her gifts to me. I share that letter with you here:

Hello Virginie,

Wow!

Spectacular!

You are at peace now.

You understand the meaning of your entire life journey - beautiful!

Your presence in the world brought great joy and confidence and healing to many people.

Your passing (surprising for many) reminds us about the importance of preparation for our own passing.

You were always such a great teacher.

You are with your mom now!

That makes me so happy (and moved).

I know you are laughing and telling stories together.

I love the presence you played in my life and the world.

Here are the qualities that you held as a shining example in my life:

Laughter! You were the person in my life who was quick to laugh. Even now I can hear your peels of laughter. I remember the first laughing exercise we did together with such vigor and joy.

Loving children! You talked about your passion through the years for children. Your school! Your tutoring! Your babysitting! Your work with children of all ages from newborns to 100 years of age in our community.

Loving good fish! Every time we chatted you talked about eating fish. “I love fish!” you said. You loved going to the Art Gallery to eat fish regularly.

Loving Life and Growth and the Afterlife! I love the many hours we spent talking about spiritual growth and spiritual connection and spiritual sharing. The exercises we shared and the meditations and the hopes and dreams.

Loving wealth! All the times we talked about being rich, and the abundance we enjoyed through the years, and the ways you loved finding wealth, and sharing wealth through your love and peace and laughter and knowledge and caring and gifts.

Love of teaching French! I remember the last time we talked, you stopped in the store for a few minutes and I had bought you a French Encyclopedia to aid in your tutoring. You were so happy to report, that the four students you had lost over the summer had been replaced by four new students. As you left, you said, “See you, my love.” Many times you said some thing similar. “See you, sweetie.” “See you, handsome.”

Love of the childhood home in Paris with your mom and sister, which today is a luxury hotel! You talked with love of visiting the hotel and staying in the room that was your childhood playground, and leisurely walking around the neighborhood again. I know that you and your mom have made that visit together now.

Love of yourself and others! You were very open and honest about your journey. You shared your successes and failures. You shared your feelings and your healings.

Love of your dreams! You shared your dreams openly and passionately with me and many others. Your love of your dreams encouraged many others to love their dreams too. You always gave an encouraging nudge.

Love of stories! You loved reading moving stories. You loved sharing moving stories. My favorite story that you shared which impacted me most was the following . . .

If you plant seeds of love, you will harvest love.
If you plant seeds of hate, you will harvest hate.

Such a simple and profound reminder.

Love of sunflowers and the book that became a mirror of your life.

Love of your Orange Tree. You made jam with the tart oranges from your tree and you knew that some day they would be sweeter. (They were always sweeter with your laughter).

Love of the Labyrinth. You would walk the Labyrinth in Vancouver sometimes with others and sometimes only with God.

Love of God! Years before I met you, you said you’d struggled with the word God. By the time I met you, you had found peace with the word and with the meaning of God in your life. You had a strong and ever-present faith in God. You doubted at times (as we all do). However you were certain so many times, that your inspired many with your faith and manifestations.

Love of A Course in Miracles! This was your main guidebook. Whenever we struggled to see eye to eye, you came back and shared how your perspective had changed when you opened the book to the perfect passage, and shared that we could agree to disagree.

Love of your books! You shared your books with everyone you came in touch with.

Your Appreciation! Often you complimented me. I witnessed you compliment others. You found something to appreciate in others. You told us all.

Thank you for the love you shared so powerfully in my life.

I love you,

Barry

If you knew, Virginie Jean-Marie and this is the first time you are hearing about her passing, I send my love and caring to you. The time of passing from the physical to the non-physical encourages a focus on our own meaning in life. May we each focus on bringing more joy to others, just as Virginie shared with so many.

Blessings,

Barry

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In the last week, I wrote two posts about White Light, you can click on the following links to read them below.

1. The White Light Of Health

2. White Light For Wealth

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White Light.

Positive Thinking.

Affirmations.

Focus on your Goal.

Think and Talk Only about what you want.

The Law of Attraction.

All of these concepts are the same. Whatever process you use is called by whatever name you choose for it.

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White Light for Love is no different.

There is only one Moment of Creation. This moment of Creation is Right Here Right Now. This moment of Creation is the Only Moment we have access to.

This One Moment of Creation is eternal.

This One Moment of Creation is the moment I thought about this post.

This One Moment of Creation is the moment I am writing this post for you.

This One Moment of Creation is the moment you are reading this.

This One Moment of Creation is the moment that anyone will ever read this - 5, 10, 20 years from now.

There is Only One Moment of Creation.

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In each moment of Creation, you can either focus on what you want, or focus on what you don’t want.

God/Life/Energy cares not what you focus upon.

God/Life/Energy Manifests more of whatever you focus upon.

If you Focus on a lack of Love in your life,

God/Life/Energy Manifests more lack of Love in your life.

If you Focus on an Abundance of Love in your life,

God/Life/Energy Manifests more Abundance of Love in your life.

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You can call this Focus by many names:

White Light.

Positive Thinking.

Affirmations.

Focus on your Goal.

Think and Talk Only about what you want.

The Law of Attraction.

The important thing is to become Aware of your Focus.

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Today, Consciously Choose your Focus in all of your Relationships.

You can observe and comment on all that is lacking in your Relationships.

Or

You can observe and comment on all that is Loving in your Relationships.

The choice is yours.

The choice has always been yours.

Become one with your Power to Choose what you want more of because it transforms your Relationships with White Light for Love.

Blessings,

Barry

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If you desire lasting joyful love, realize you attract what you embody.

Think about what you find attractive in other people.

Most people find confidence, laughter, compassion, and a listening ear attractive in other people.

If you desire Love, and it is not currently present, ask yourself, what are you attracted to in others, and then embody those characteristics until you find them mirrored back to you.

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Too often, people say they are ready for love, when really they are desperate for love.

When people are desperate for love, they come across as needy, talkative, overbearing, and nervous.

Perhaps you have heard the idea that right when you no longer want something that it comes to you.

This is exactly what being ready for love is. Know that love is coming and you automatically vibrate with a “love-is-coming-to-me” Creation Vibration.

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When you are your most loving, that is the time love comes to you.

Love is ever present.

You can be absent from the Presence of love by your attention to anything other than love.

Love waits for you to acknowledge it’s presence before love appears.

Experience is Neutral.

Perception is Everything.

You can perceive Love’s Presence in any Experience when you choose to. Some would say that this is looking at the world through rose colored glasses.

Love would say that this is looking at the world through Love’s Glasses.

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No matter what age you are, you can . . .

1. Look at Love Through Love’s Glasses

2. Set your Creation Vibration at “love-is-coming-to-me”

3. Appreciate Love in every form present, until the form that presents itself matches your present love

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Appreciate love in every person, place, thing, and experience.

Appreciate love in yourself.

Appreciate all that is present in your life now, not at some future better feeling destination.

Love and Appreciation are the same vibration. When you Love and Appreciate what you have, and you Love and Appreciate what you dream about, then you set your Creation Vibration at Love and Appreciation.

“Love-is-coming-to-me” transforms into Love and Appreciation that is Right Here Right Now.

That’s all that is ever Right Here Right Now, when that is what you perceive and activate.

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Thank you God/Life/Energy for Love’s Glasses, and thank you for love coming to me at any age.

Blessings,

Barry

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Your Creation Vibration sets the tone for your life.

When you ask a question like, “Where is the love of my life?”, you set your Creation Vibration at, “Where is the love of my life?”

When you stop asking questions and start Aligning with what you do want that is what you Create.

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What do you want for your relationship?

1. Clearly define what you desire

2. Make it a fun experience to foster

3. Listen as your feelings guide you to what you desire

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I know that this may seem simplistic, but if you are struggling to achieve the type of relationship you truly desire, ask yourself, “Have I clearly defined the relationship I desire?”

If you are in a relationship, how did you get there? Did you get into your current relationship by Choice and Design, or did you arrive by coincidence and default?

If you are not in a relationship at the moment, how did you get there? Did you get there by Choice and Design, or did you arrive by coincidence and default?

The more honestly you answer the question, the more quickly you can get on to Creating the loving relationship of your dreams.

Where you are now, is not where you will be forever. If you wish to get to some place different, go there by Choice and Design.

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Whether you are in a relationship (or not) right now, define what you desire.

Yes, I am asking you write out what you want in this life for a relationship. Yes, I want you to write the quality and quantity of love as you desire it. Yes, you may have done this type of exercise before, however if you are struggling right now to realize the relationship of your dreams, you could benefit by trying it again.

When you are done writing it out (Yes, you have to write it out. If you just do this in your head, you will miss the beauty life is offering you through this exercise), I want you to look at your list.

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With your list in front of you, whether you are in a relationship (or not), ask yourself, of the things on your list, which of them are under your control?

By example, here are some things that could be on your list (and whether they are under your control or not).

1. I want our relationship to exude fun wherever we go (I can control only if I have fun).

2. I want my partner to say loving things to me (it would be nice, but I can only make sure I say loving things to my partner).

3. I want to take time making love regularly with my partner (I can be passionate and encourage more love making from my side of the equation).

4. I want my partner to be physically active, and watch hardly any television (I can control only me).

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I think you get an idea now, that if you want to have more love, success, abundance, peace, health, joy, freedom, fun, sex, wealth, kindness, friendship, or anything else in a relationship, then you can only control your part of the relationship.

Bring that to the table in a relationship (or potential relationship). It is not what you are going to get from a relationship, it is what you can give to the relationship.

I am not talking about being taken advantage of either, but being able to recognize healthy boundaries of what you want and choose to give to a relationship.

Healthy Boundaries of what you want and can give in a relationship means only what you Want and Choose to Give.

A Relationship partner can ask for more, but you will only give what you want and Choose to give.

You can ask for some thing to be in your relationship, but if it is not already present in a relationship, unless you choose to bring it to the relationship, you can not guarantee it being there.

Bring things with love and fun and you will share in the experience of them with your relationship partner.

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The next time you find your self asking, “Where is the love of my life?”, ask yourself, “How much love can I bring into my life right here right now?”

You are the love of your life!

Whether you are in a relationship (or not); whether you want a relationship (or not); you are the love that you seek.

You experience love within you. Someone can be loving towards a person, and that person can choose to deny that love. Another person can be unloving towards a person, and that person can choose to see love in their life.

I do not recommend that you (or anyone) stay in a place that is unloving. I only recommend that you …

1. Define what you desire

2. Make it a fun experience

3. Listen to your feelings

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If you are feeling good you are on track. If you want to transform your relationship by filling it with more love, bring more love into your relationship.

You’ve got the power to bring love into the world - your world!

Use it!

Blessings,

Barry

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The Seven Relationship Rings

Do you have problems with your intimate relationship partner?

Do you have problems with family members?

Do you have problems with co-workers?

Do you have problems with community members?

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The Seven Relationship Rings can help you immensely.

The Seven Relationship Rings can help you transform your life.

When you view and approach life using The Seven Relationship Rings model, you will transform your life.

When some people hear about The Seven Relationship Rings , they comment that it sound selfish.

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The only way we can experience life is through the perspective of Self. Is it selfish to approach life from the perspective of Self? I think it is Self-Full. Only when we are Self-Full can we help ourselves and others.

When we fill our cup of Self, then our cup is full. What do we fill our cup with? We fill our own cup with Love, Success, Abundance, Peace, Health, Joy, Freedom, Fun, Kindness; we fill our cup with everything that we need to Love and Approve of ourselves just as we are.

Some see this as selfish. The people who see this as selfish, selfishly want you to pay attention to them (or their point of view) first.

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The sooner you work from your Core relationship with God/Life/Energy, then every decision you make will be informed by your focus on your Core Relationship with God/Life/Energy.

Self-Full to me means God-Self-Full because in my Core is my Relationship with God/Life/Energy.

My goal is to fully embody God’s Presence in my life. This is a goal I work towards to be Self-Full in all of my Relationships.

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To most effectively experience The Seven Relationship Rings and to have Joyful, Peaceful, and effective relationships, you make all decisions from the inside out.

By example, if a co-worker asks you to switch shifts and work for them, in the past you may have said to yourself, “They switched with me the last time I needed a shift change.” and you then make the switch. Since this decision does not come from your Core (it comes from your sense of duty), many times this decision can lead to a rotting core inside.

Using The Seven Relationship Rings, I make my decisions by working from the Core outwards.

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Now if a co-worker asks me to work, I ask myself in my Core if that choice works for me …

Core Relationship Ring with God/Life/Energy: Yes that works for me.

Intimate Relationship Ring: Yes that works for us.

Friend Relationship Ring: I promised the kids that I would go to their baseball game on that day. No that does not work for me.

Then I go to my co-worker and say “no”.

When I approach my decisions from the inside out, I do not feel rotten in my Core when I make decisions. If I always make decisions to help others before myself, it very often leads to feeling rotten in my Core.

For a more detailed explanation of The Seven Relationship Rings , check out this link => The Seven Relationship Rings

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We always make decisions from our Core, and when we make our decisions from a Self-Full position (God-Self-Full), then we make decisions that build our life Joyfully.

Blessings Barry

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